Safe sex with Condom

Typical unused condom

How to Put On a Condom

1. Open the condom wrapper carefully, avoiding to damage the condom with your fingernails or teeth. Put on condom only after the penis is showing a partial or full erection and before introducing the penis inside the partner's body. Be sure that the roll is on the outside, else the condom wouldn't roll and your penis could loose the erection. Don't use the same condom twice or more, unless you live in a poor country and you can afford only one condom in a while. If you have no chance but re-using a condom, wash your condom very well after each use.

2. Air trapped inside a condom during intercourse can cause it to break. Squeeze the tip of the condom to leave some extra space in the tip, and only then put on condom, rolling the condom entirely down to the base of the penis, still pinching the top.

3. Introduce the penis wherever you want. Make sure the condom stays in place during sex; if it rolls up, roll it back into place. If the condom comes off, withdraw the penis and put on a new condom. If you don't have a new condom, apologize with your partner and make a jump to nearest drugstore to buy a new one. If this is not possible, relax with a cold shower and learn the lesson for the next time. Always have a backup condom in your pocket!

4. Soon after ejaculation - or when you are too tired to continue, or you get bored by the intercourse - withdraw the penis, making sure to hold the condom firmly in place. Remove the condom only once the penis is fully withdrawn.

5. Avoid puoring the semen from the used condom onto your partner's genitals - this could spoil all your previous efforts. Wrap the condom in a tissue or close it with a knot and place it in the trash. If no trash can is available in the surroundings, put in a safe place (no, a bank is NOT a safe place). Flushing it down the toilet is not the easiest way to get rid of it. Don't put it in the fridge to preserve the sperm. Don't use it to cook pancakes.

This is how a condom is looking after use

Proper Condom Use : Avoiding Common Mistakes

1. Make sure the roll is on the outside. Else the condom will jeopardize your erection.

2. Make sure there is a reasonable amount of empty space left at the tip of the condom. Also a penis needs to "breath".

3. Don't use two condoms at once. If you want to use two condoms you have to make love twice. Don't use three condoms at once either.

4. Avoid friction or dryness by using latex-safe lubricants, if you can find some. Ask for advise to your favourite drugstore, explaining your needs in detail. Lack of lubrication is a primary cause of condom breakage and other discomforts. But oil based lubricants may damage your condom, so beware!

5. A lot of children has been conceived because of mistakes during withdrawal. Sperm easily flows out of a slipping condom while one is pulling out.

Gustav Klimt: sex with condom

Abstinence, a heroic alternative to safe sex

(for males and females)

The most efficient way to avoid the risks associated with sex is to avoid sexual activity entirely. The chances of contracting STDs are that way highly reduced, and confined in non sexual activities like blood transfusion and dental care.

Some groups, like some American evangelical Christians and the Roman Catholic Church oppose sex without previous marriage, and object to safe-sex education programs. Instead, sexual abstinence education programs are promoted. Even though quite radical, this is not a bad idea at all, but it's not a complete solution to the problems posed by the very real existence of sex. Hormons cannot be silenced completely and forever, and extreme abstinence may in time result in sexual deviation like sadomasochism, raping attitudes and pedophily. Societies forbidding premarital sex are plagued by higher rates of crime and violence. Researchers found a link between sexual repression and aggression, criminal behavior, and a greater likelihood of killing and torturing people. For this reason abstinence should be integrated by a reasonable and regular teraphy of masturbation. Pornography could be of some use to this extent. In many cases, abstinence during marriage is highly recommended, since so many people get infected by their husband or wife who has cought the disease by someone else (prostitutes, gigolos, apes or just common lovers). Therefore, masturbation inside marriage becomes necessary as well. In his infamous film, Borat suggests to protect oneself from AIDS by wearing jewelery containing gipsy tears, but gipsy tears are not easy to find in drugstores yet.

Autoeroticism, the new frontier of safe sex

(for males and femals)

Autoeroticism is a solitary sexual activity which is particularly safe, and is highly recommended to avoid STDs. However, if you indulge in self-bondage and autoerotic asphyxia, two frequent forms of autoeroticism, avoiding STDs may be not enough to ensure your safety. Just stay within the boundaries of ordinary masturbation and you'll be safe. Autoeroticism can actually hardly be distinguished from masturbation. Why do then two different words for the same behaviour? This happens because there are different psyhological attitudes towards the act of being sexually autocton, which changes the perception that one has of his/her own self inflicted sexual satisfaction.

Autofellatio

(for males only)

Men who are not satisfied by masturbating, to prevent getting infected by STDs may try come common autofellatio. Autofellatio is the art of oral stimulation of one's own penis. Most men do not possess sufficient flexibility and/or penis length to succeed in the necessary frontbend. However, physical training such as gymnastics, contortion, or yoga makes it possible for some. Fewer than 1% of men can effectively suck, lick or bite their own penises.

It is possible to injure oneself while performing autofellatio, therefore it can't be considered 100% safe sex. Take extreme caution to avoid destroying the ligaments and tendons in the back and/or neck. It is also likely to develope stretch marks on the lower back due to the extreme frontbend, especially if one spends a lot of time in such a position without rest. Biting your own penis can also result in complications. Avoid speaking with your mobile phone while busy in such an activity, or driving a car.

Autofellatio in 10 easy steps:

Take time getting into position. Don't always watch at the watch.
If there is discomfort, relax and return to a resting position for a while. Watch Tv.
If you cannot reach his penis, don't strain, nor try to enlarge your penis.
Don't try to go too much closer / farther down than you did the last time. Forget deep throat stunts.
If it hurts, don't be a masochistic hero and stop immediately, or tissues could be damaged.
If you injures yourself, do not insist in autofellatio until the pain subsides and some medical advice has been implemented.
If attempting autofellatio causes repeated stress, eventually it is better to give up.
Pain from overextending during normal autofellatio may appear immediately or within six-eight hours.